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11 Things I’m Grateful For This Year

This week seems like a good time to talk about gratitude since Thanksgiving is tomorrow.

Gratitude it a one of the most powerful over-the-counter drugs on the market today. In fact, it works so well in my life that I stop taking it.

When I do remember to sit down and come up with a list of the things I am grateful for, it scares me because the effects are so potent.

A couple of weeks ago, I got up in the morning and before I even had breakfast, I felt like the sky was falling, and I was in fear about my career and about money. I left like my life was over and I wanted to die.

I called my wise friend, Lou, who suggested I make a list of the things I was grateful for. I was in enough pain to do what he said, and by the afternoon, I was feeling a lot better — and the funny thing is the balance in my checking account was still the same and I still was not on the cover of Entertainment Weekly.

My outside had not changed one bit, but my inside had changed a lot. I was in a good mood. The sun was shining, as much as it can do in November in Chicago.

So if you’re feeling a bit down during the holidays, or any time of the year, try focusing on what you are grateful for. It can really help.

That being said, I wanted to share with you some things I am really grateful for this year. (These are not in any particular order… just so Lauren knows why she isn’t at the top of the list).

  1. World’s Greatest Dad(?)
    After 18 years since my last one-person show, I finally put up another one. I opened it in July and then ran it again in November (my last show is this Saturday), and both times it played to sold-out crowds most nights. I’ve received a lot of great press and had the chance to see friends I have not seen in years. I also really enjoyed the creative process, and it was so much fun to be back doing it again. But one-person shows are never really created by one person, and I am most grateful for all of the people who helped me with the show along the way.
  1. Lauren
    Lauren is a great partner and a great mom, and my favorite part of the day is at night when we lay in bed and talk about our day. Not only do I learn a lot from Lauren, but she also keeps me on track in my life and my career. I love her so much.
  1. Our bed
    It the baby bear of mattresses — not too hard and not too soft, but just right. I only wish I could sleep on it more.
  1. My students
    I am blessed in this department. I love teaching improv, I think a lot more than I realize. And I love my students. They are some of the kindest, most talented and thoughtful people, and I really learn a lot from them. Right now, I have really wonderful Level 2 Class that are all so bright and have blended so well as a group, that I’m going to miss teaching tonight because of Thanksgiving.
  2. Coco, our cat
    I never thought I could love a cat. I never thought a cat could love me. I mean, I was actually mean to our cat growing up. But Coco can’t get enough of me, lying on my stomach and purring until she kills me with her kitty love.
  1. Betsy, our daughter
    She is now over three and even though I have not gotten a solid eight hours of sleep since she was born, on most days, this kid brings me a lot of joy. She has helped me on those morning where I have felt depressed and didn’t want to get out of bed. I’m like, “Ugh, I need to get up and make breakfast for her,” and before I know it, I’ve completely forgotten that I was hating myself a couple of hours earlier.
  1. Lauren’s parents
    They have been very generous to us over the years and I like being part of a German family, which is much different than my family of origin. I actually look forward to spending Christmas in Pennsylvania, where along with the turkey, they serve this thing called “filling” instead of stuffing. (It’s a Pennsylvania Dutch thing).
  1. My friends
    I have a great group of friends that I can call and ask for their help. And here is the best part — 80% of the time I take some form of it, and because of it, my life has gotten bigger.
  2. Netflix
    Between “Stranger Things,” “Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee,” and the comedy specials and documentaries, and since it’s on my computer and is portable, Netflix is just plain awesome. How can they give you all of this great content for only $8.99 per month? I don’t know, but I’m very grateful.
  3. Teaching improv at Betsy’s preschool
    They call me Mr. Carrane.  They struggle with even the most basic of games. Their attention span is about 14 minutes. They have no expectations. They don’t care how they are doing or if they are going to be on SNL. And when I leave, I feel like I am on a pink cloud.
  4. My Kindle
    Another product that I came late to the party to. I love books. I love going and supporting bookstores. But lately, I haven’t had the time to browse through a regular bookstore, so Kindle has been a savior. I love that you can get a sample of books before you buy them and that they are cheaper then buying them new. I also feel it good for the environment.

What are you grateful for this year? I’d love to hear in the comments below.

Being Grateful for Where I Am

Next week is Thanksgiving, and I think the older I get the more I am starting to understand gratitude.

When I started out doing improv in my 20s, I was so obsessed about becoming famous. So much so that it took all the fun out of it and affected my relationships. Fame was my higher power.

When friends of mine who I started out together in Chicago got success, I could not be happy for them. I took it personally, and went into a deep depression and was convinced I must be doing something wrong.

By the time I was in my 50s, my anger had turned into bitterness and jealousy, and I was ashamed to admit it, afraid what you would think of me.

It affected my marriage, too. Lauren would get annoyed about me about not being grateful for the things that were right in front of me, including our relationship. My life had never been better, and I could not see it.

Then Betsy was born, and after about six months, after we decided to keep her, things started to change. Before Betsy was born, other fathers would say to me: “Just wait. After she is born, she will change you.” I didn’t know what they meant. But they were right. It happened gradually.

I can’t even put the change into words, but the long and short of it is fatherhood did change me, for the better.

I am happier. Even Lauren noticed I can be easier to be around. She has said, “You don’t seem so obsessed with fame since Betsy was born.”

Thank God. I am not perfect. My desire to become famous still comes back occasionally, but today, I am far more grateful for what I have than I was in years past, and I am no closer to being famous. I would say that is progress.

Have a happy Thanksgiving.

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The 5 Things I’m Most Grateful For

The best way to get more good stuff in your life is to be grateful for what you already have. All you have to do is physically get out a pen and paper and on a daily basis and write out the things you are grateful for. You can even call a friend and leave a message on their voicemail about the things you are grateful for. Yes, it is that simple; gratitude tends to build on itself. I am not speaking out of my ass here. I am speaking from experience. In fact, it has worked so well in my life that I stop doing it. You cannot get a better endorsement than that.

This morning I looked back at some of the Thanksgiving blogs I wrote in the past, and I am almost embarrassed by one I wrote two years ago where I asked the reader to list ten things you are grateful for, which in retrospect seems a little ambitious if you are new to this whole gratitude thing. I’m pretty impressed that I had a couple of brave people who wrote ten things they were grateful for in the comments. Thank you for that.

So this year, if you feel up to it, write as few or as many things you are grateful for in the comments below. Since I am asking you to do this, I guess I will lead by example, so here I go.

Wait. Before I go, I want to say that I have seen a new pattern emerge in my life that I want to share with you. If you have read this blog or listened to the podcast Improv Nerd, you know I measure my success and happiness by how much money is in my checking account or how close I am to achieving such a shallow goal as fame.

Yes, we all know how fucked up I am and how low my self-esteem can be, but I don’t want to focus on that for a second; I want to focus on the progress here. Today, when I think about what I am most grateful for, it’s people. For me, that is a fucking miracle.

Now, I will finally go:

  1. My Daughter
    When that little thing came out of her mother’s tummy, I was like “Shit, we made a huge mistake. She looks like a little angry old man.” I panicked. That panic lasted for over four months until Betsy began to smile, and now I am so in love with that drooly, little milk-soaked baby, I can’t tell you.
  1. Lauren
    I love her. My life has become so much bigger and fuller since I met her, and I have never experienced unconditional love from someone before like this. She believes in my talent when I think I am a piece of shit, she makes fun of me always wanting to kill myself, and she loves me despite the fact that I leave a spoon covered in humus on the counter every afternoon, which thankfully we have resolved in couples therapy.
  1. The Entire Staff of Improv Nerd
    I don’t how it happened — it has nothing to do with me – but I have an amazing crew that helps out with Improv Nerd. From Sam Bowers, the director of Improv Nerd who oversees the entire live production and deals with me, a demanding and passive-aggressive host, to Dan Schiffmacher, who produces the episodes and does an incredible job with our YouTube videos, to Joe Pisanzio and Joe Gallagher who also shoot video of the episodes. We’ve also added Marc Serlicttic as our sound engineer, Ian Geotz as our trusty intern, and, of course, Jessie Kunnath, as our photographer. I am forever grateful to this talented and dedicated staff who always have my back. Not to mention all the great people at FeralAudio, Stage 773 and The Second City Training Center who make everything happen.
  1. My Friends
    I have comedy friends. I have recovery friends. I have friends from two group therapies. I have friends that I don’t have a category for. These are the people who see my worth when I cannot see it. They talk me off the ledge and jump in front of me when I am trying to sabotage myself. Talking on the phone to my friends is truly one of the biggest joys of my life.
  1. You
    That is right. If you are reading this blog you are a fan of mine or you listen to the podcast, and chances are you are a current or former of student of mine or you have taken a workshop with me in the past. I am forever grateful to you for your continued support in my career. Thank you for making it possible.Want to sample Jimmy’s improv teaching? Sign up for the Art of Slow Comedy One-Day Workshop on Friday, Dec. 30. Early Bird Special ends Dec. 15!